This week I have been learning about various ways to deal with conflicts. I am going to share a personal conflict. My brother and I disagree about a lot of things. The most recent was about how he could get a car. My brother is the type of person who thinks he knows all the answers and when you try to help him with solutions to his problems, he always has an excuse why it won't work. I approached him with a couple of ideas about selling his current vehicle that does not work in order for him to get another vehicle. I listened to what he had to say then I would reply. This goes on for a few minutes until I can't take it anymore. I used to try and ration with him but know I have gotten to the point I just say ok to whatever he says.
When dealing with my brother the two strategies that I can use is to listen to his point of view and not cut him off because I think he is wrong and I can also try the 3 R's. If I demonstrate the 3 R"s maybe it would rub off on him and we could actually finish a conversation.
Tanisha,
ReplyDeleteI think that trying the 3 Rs might be a good approach. Hopefully he would respect your desire to try this method and would participate with an open-mind. I think that in some cases, some people just want to have someone else hear their ideas but don't really want the opinions/advice that come along with it. Good luck in communicating with your brother.